11 Things I Would Tell My Freshman Year Self

1. Don’t be afraid to get involved.

Experience is just as important as studying. You will meet a bunch of new people and gain new experience.

2. Cherish all the money you have freshman year. By senior year you will understand what it really means to be a ‘broke college kid’.

Save your money as much as possible. Chipotle and sushi can wait every once in awhile.

3. Your high school study habits will not cut it in college.

Or lack thereof study habits. Seriously, you will see by sophomore year your potential and how you could have boosted your GPA freshman year by studying a little more.

4. The library is your friend.

It is the best place to get work done. Otherwise you will be napping in your bed or resulting to Netflix.

5. Don’t be afraid to meet new people. 

You’re not in your hometown anymore. There are a ton of people out there. Go out and meet them.

6. Don’t be alarmed when your friend group from high school goes from ten people to a cozy group of four.

It’s not about who’s there in the beginning, it’s about who’s there in the end.

7. The people you met in the first few weeks of freshman year will be ones that changed your life.

The bonds will become even stronger throughout the years.

8. It’s okay to not have everything figured out yet.

Because you might not even have it figured out senior year. And that’s okay. Don’t over stress yourself about this.

9. Learn to become independent. 

Doing your laundry, cooking your own food, LEARN HOW TO DO IT.

10. Learning to manage your time will be a life saver.

You will not regret it. It’s a great skill to have.

11. Enjoy being a freshman. 

People may know you’re a freshman and you can’t wait to be a sophomore, but seriously, when you’re a senior you’re gonna wish you were a freshman again.

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The Meaning of Dreams

I’ve been having terrifying dreams lately. Dreams that deal with death. When I wake up, it feels very real and I’m scared for a little bit. One of the most real dreams I had recently was a few weeks ago. I was at my house at school and everyone was talking about a car crash that happened right outside my house. Then my dream went back in time and I knew the accident was going to happen, so I had the chance to save the woman. I went downstairs and saw a black SUV across the street. I then saw a woman slowly walking/trudging past the side of the house into the backyard. She then laid down in the snow. I went and got my roommate and told her to call 911 because I had to leave soon for my internship and no one else was home. Then I ran outside to the lady. I helped her into my house asking all kinds of questions like if she was okay and what her name was. She said Muriel. Then I asked her where she was from, thinking she’d tell me the town or state. She said ‘heaven’ My roommate and I freaked out at the point and then I woke up. I felt like there was a presence in my room, but I was too scared to open my eyes or move. I did feel like it was a good presence, however. The weirdest part of that was my grandmother that I never met was name Marian, which is a form of the name Muriel.

Other dreams I’ve had in the past month deal with me driving off bridges and falling out of a plane. I looked up what recurring dreams about death meant, and it amazed me how it couldn’t be more true. To sum it up, recurring dreams about death mean you are going through a transitional phase in your life and you are anxious and have a fear of the upcoming unknown. Helllooo! I’m about to graduate college and have no idea where my life is headed. This phase of my life is coming to an end and I just started applying to jobs this week, so I have the uncertainty of not having a job once I graduate. I really hope these dreams will stop. I’m definitely relieved to understand the reason behind these dreams and that they don’t mean I’m going to die, but they are still very frightening!

Has anyone had any dreams that startled them?

Important Advice From A Drunk Guy

My last night home during my last winter break as a college student brought me an unsuspecting word of advice from an overbearing, slightly annoying, but very insightful drunk guy. Let me set the scene for you. My best friend and I were at our local hometown, “townie” bar and everyone you don’t feel like seeing is there. Well actually, there was a lot of people who graduated high school years before me, but I really didn’t feel up to the social scene that night. But it was my last night home with my best friend and she asked me to go out, so I went. After getting our drinks, my friend and I were just talking and bonding by ourselves before deciding to go find her guy friends on the other side of the bar. As soon as we turn around to walk away, we get stopped.

“You guys look REALLY familiar! Did you guys do orchestra in high school?!”

Some random girl in the grade above us stopped us, which pretty much summed up the rest of my night. So after talking with the girl who we barely knew and her two guy friends for about 15 minutes, my friend found her escape. Since I was on the other side of the circle, I was trapped. Cue the next twenty minutes talking to the one guy who moved to my small Jersey town from somewhere in upstate New York. Actually not talking…..listening, and listening, and listening, and OOH A CHANCE TO GET A WORD…nope still listening. You get the point. This guy was a talker.

So as he was droning on about how he would give his left hand to be back in college and to just embrace every single day and how we were his people, I finally got away and found my friend again. But this wasn’t the last of the drunk talker. Nope. He found us when he was leaving to tell us it was very nice meeting us and to give us some advice that I was slightly amused by at the time, but have realized the importance.

“WAKE UP EVERY SINGLE DAY AND HUG YOUR DAY. IT’S WEDNESDAY? WAKE UP AND HUG THAT WEDNESDAY AND EMBRACE THAT WEDNESDAY BECAUSE IT WILL SOON LEAVE YOU.”

And that was that. Hug your Wednesdays. Hug everyday. Do something new. Do something you appreciate. Appreciate the day even if it’s just a boring old Wednesday, or a dreadful Monday, or whatever it may be.

As silly as that conversation was, I really have thought about it a lot as my final semester is creeping up on me. So to that drunk guy I met at my local bar, you bet I’ll be hugging my Wednesdays!

Important Truths

In my high school Philosophy class, we read a list of important truths a guy learned over the course of his life. There were 88 of them and we were asked to pick our favorite ones. I was just thinking about it, and found the list on Google. Here are some of my favorites and what they mean to me:

  1. The most common addiction in the world is the draw of comfort. It wrecks dreams and breaks people.
    People can fall into the trap of being comfortable. When you live life comfortably, you stop living. Take risks. Try to do something each day that is out of the norm or uncomfortable for you. This task doesn’t have to be hard. It could be as simple as going a different way to work or class.
  2. Everyone you meet is better than you at something.
    This is an important one for people who always try to be the best or are hard on themselves if they are not the best. You don’t want to be the best because then you have nothing to strive for.
  3. Indulging your desires is not self-love.
    Just because you do something you want to do once in awhile does not mean you are selfish. Sometimes you have to do something for yourself.
  4. Whoever you are, you will die. To know and understand that means you are alive.
    This is an interesting one because as morbid as it sounds, there are days where I think about death and accept the fact that I will die and on those days, I am not afraid. However, there are other days where death frightens me and I cannot come to terms with it. I guess this one is saying that on the days I accept it, I am alive, and on the other days, I  am not.
  5. Getting truly organized can vastly improve anyone’s life.
    I like to think of myself as organized a good amount of the time. I know when I completely write out everything I have to do around the last month of the semester like when everything is due, I feel so much better about my life.
  6. If you aren’t happy single, you won’t be happy in a relationship.
    If you’re not happy with yourself, how can you make someone else happy?
  7. It’s easy to make someone’s day just by being uncommonly pleasant to them.
    This is one of the simplest, but most effective truths on here. I know when a random girl will smile at me for no reason when I walk to class or someone compliments me out of the blue, or even if the cashier at the store strikes up a friendly conversation, it can instantly make me feel happier.
  8. Most of what children learn from their parents isn’t taught on purpose 
    I am 20 years old and don’t have any children, and don’t plan on it in the near future, but I think this is an important one to remember when I finally do have kids. Kids pick up on things that you don’t realize you do or say.
  9. It is worth re-trying foods that you didn’t like at first.
    Apparently your taste buds change every few years or so. Foods I used to HATE are now some of my favorites. (Sushi, hummus, almond milk and yes, even avocados!)
  10. Nothing — ever — happens exactly like you pictured it.
    Ain’t that the truth!
  11. A good nine out of ten bad things I’ve worried about never happened. A good nine out of ten bad things that did happen never occurred to me to worry about.
    I’m a worrier. I definitely worry about things that aren’t worth worrying about. I need to remember this one.
  12. Anyone can be calmed in an instant by looking at the ocean or the stars.
    Nature is beautiful and something I think a lot of people take for granted. I need to start doing this more when I am stressed or upset.
  13. Life is a solo trip, but you’ll have lots of visitors. Some of them are long-term, most aren’t.
    This is a cool way to think about it. Not everyone is going to be your best friend. People will come and go and sometimes you just have to come to terms with that. If they weren’t meant to be in your life forever, then maybe that’s a good thing.
  14. Wishing things were different is a great way to torture yourself.
    Don’t dwell on the past. The only way you can make things different, is to change it yourself.
  15. The ability to be happy is nothing other than the ability to come to terms with how things change.
    This kinda goes hand-in-hand with number 14. People change. Places change. Situations change. YOU change. If we were all who we were 5 years ago, then we haven’t experienced and lived life.
  16. If everyone in the TV show you’re watching is good-looking, it’s not worth watching.
    Three words: Pretty. Little. Liars.

I know that I don’t 100% live by all of these, but it’s good to think about them and realize sometimes this is how life is. Here is the link to the article with all of the truths.